Friendzone

I often find it hard to establish certain lines between genders. A girl could never be "one of the boys". Despite as much as a tomboy a girl may be, she will never be included in boys' events. That's what my childhood growing up was like. "Where do I belong?" was something I always struggled with. Always a fan of sports, being outdoors, computers and playing video games; afraid of dolls, barbies and make-up. I never quite fit in or belonged anywhere.

College was the first time I began to actually surround myself with girls. Though the reasoning for this wasn't because I grew out of that tomboy phase, but instead because of sex and dating. Growing up, I realized I hung out with boys that I spent years growing up with. In college, it was meeting new guys, and this was a harder task than one could imagine. The first thing to cross a college boys' mind seems to be sex. They show interest only if there's potential in sex. However, when I met guys while I was in a relationship, they were more likely to be open to a frienship, probably in hopes of future dibs. Being a single girl just looking for a group of boys to be friends with is hard.

Is that really something that hard to ask for? The second you friendzone a guy that seems interesting, they decide you're not worth the effort anymore. Is it really that taboo to be friends with the opposite sex just because? I find it hard to understand people as a whole.