BLOG POST #3- Long Distance Relationships
I don’t believe in long distance relationships...I think. I’d like to. But they are just too difficult. Perhaps it is because I’ve witnessed friends get hurt too many times by the damange done by long distance relationships, or that I’ve seen too many films in which characters strive so hard to maintain relationships from far away but ultimately end up seeing other people, or perhaps it is because I have just gotten out of a type of long distance relationship myself.
I’d love to believe that long distance relationships do work—but they are just so unlikely to last. I have a friend right now who began a relationship with someone over the summer and then she went overseas, back home, to where she lives. They are maintaining a relationship by phone calls and video chatting as well as letters, gifts sent my bail, texting, etc. They know each other very well but no matter how thoughtful they both are, and how much they may know about each other, even if they both know just what to say to make the other one feel better all the time, they are lacking something that I think is an essential part of a relationship-- physical contact. How can you truly love someone who isn’t there?
When you are in times of trouble, you want someone to be at your side to hold you and to consol you. When you are in times of joy, you want to share that joy with someone who will hold your hand and smile at you. When you are scared, you want someone there to protect you. You want to be able to share experiences together. How can any of this be achieved if the person you want to be with is simply not with you? I’d love for these relationships to last—and if someone can make it work, God bless them. But I don’t have high hopes.
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