I just had lunch with a friend of mine who is a total door mat in her relationship. I needed to vent because she is completely ridiculous. I think it is fair to say that we all know at least one person who lets people walk all over him/her...like their boss, significant other, child, whoever...they simply lack assertiveness. I wonder how they got to this point in their life. Could it be innate? A lack of self-esteem/confidence? Temperament? Daddy Issues? What ever the cause may be. I think that these people in particular need special attention. They have the same needs as you and I, but are not as vocal about such needs. It's so easy for these people to get walked all over by loud mouths like myself. I see these "door mat" type relationships when a "Miss. Door Mat" meets "Mr. Walk all over" , not a good mix at all. And yet as is said "opposites attract", and thus you have situations like my lunch, where my friend sits and complains to the wrong person. So my friends out there in the cloud, I will end with saying if you or some one you know lacks assertiveness, I suggest growing some pretty big attachments.
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