Law 47
Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.
I think this is pretty difficult to do. Think gambling... once you're on a roll (if you are winning) it's difficult to stop... if you don't there's a good chance you could lose everything... and then some.
Law 48
Assume Formlessness
By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.
I don't even know what to say about this one. This is tough. People want to be comfortable.. and "assume a form." How can you live without letting your guard down?
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Tuesday, 17 May 2011
Respect traditions & be human.. not perfect
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 45
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.
I think this is really important to understand. Too much change will really freak people out. You really have to respect traditions and changing too many things too fast can really bite you in the butt. It can make you seem disrespectful and no one wants that.
Law 46
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Again, you have to show humility. And apparently, it's good to have a few enemies. It'll keep you on your toes. Fortunately, no one is perfect but even someone acting perfect can put a bad taste in your mouth.
Law 45
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.
I think this is really important to understand. Too much change will really freak people out. You really have to respect traditions and changing too many things too fast can really bite you in the butt. It can make you seem disrespectful and no one wants that.
Law 46
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Again, you have to show humility. And apparently, it's good to have a few enemies. It'll keep you on your toes. Fortunately, no one is perfect but even someone acting perfect can put a bad taste in your mouth.
Seduction & mirror effect
Law 43
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.
This reminds me of another book by Robert Greene. The thing is that seduction (does not have to be sexual) takes time. You have to know who you're dealing with. You have to know who you are as a seducer... you have to read the book to understand that. it's a process, it takes time and effort. When it comes to power you can't do it half-assed. It's no longer a game. If you mess up you could end up in big trouble.
Law 44
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.
See I can see myself trying something like this but I feel like these days... people just don't get it. They'll just think I'm acting like a... people are so blind to their own actions.
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.
This reminds me of another book by Robert Greene. The thing is that seduction (does not have to be sexual) takes time. You have to know who you're dealing with. You have to know who you are as a seducer... you have to read the book to understand that. it's a process, it takes time and effort. When it comes to power you can't do it half-assed. It's no longer a game. If you mess up you could end up in big trouble.
Law 44
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.
See I can see myself trying something like this but I feel like these days... people just don't get it. They'll just think I'm acting like a... people are so blind to their own actions.
avoid stepping in a great man's shoes
Law 41
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.
Story of my life... And for the record.. It's kind of tough to outshine someone that has two medical degrees... Try being a D.O. and an M.D... What else could I possibly do? Be a veterinarian on the weekends? If I have any spare time.. I'd like to have time to go food shopping more than once a month or actually go shopping instead of just ordering things online.. But the thing is, I really respect my mother for what she does.. But she's extremely smart.. I had to get my good genes from someone! Anyway, I'll make something of myself.. In my own way. I'm getting there.. With sleepless nights and a diet of cereal bars.
Law 42
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.
I guess this goes along with crushing your enemy totally.
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.
Story of my life... And for the record.. It's kind of tough to outshine someone that has two medical degrees... Try being a D.O. and an M.D... What else could I possibly do? Be a veterinarian on the weekends? If I have any spare time.. I'd like to have time to go food shopping more than once a month or actually go shopping instead of just ordering things online.. But the thing is, I really respect my mother for what she does.. But she's extremely smart.. I had to get my good genes from someone! Anyway, I'll make something of myself.. In my own way. I'm getting there.. With sleepless nights and a diet of cereal bars.
Law 42
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.
I guess this goes along with crushing your enemy totally.
stir up waters & free lunch
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 39
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.
Again this looks good on paper but it's not so easy in actuality. Making people angry while you stay calm is pretty simple. It also makes then even more angry because they see how calm you are. Maybe it's because I'm a woman... I haven't seen so many men doing this so naturally... But I'm used to doing this. You kind of learn to shut things out in order to get things done. At this point in my life, it's easy to put a smile on my face (even when I want to throw something) for the greater good.
Law 40
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.
I guess it's good then that not many things are free then. As for paying full price... I don't think there's anything wrong with getting a Burberry bag 15% off in Bloomingdales. I can understand why paying your own way is important. Even I get fidgety when guys pay for me... It usually involves a hidden obligation. But on the other hand, some of my friends and I occasionally pay for each other when we go out. But on the next trip, someone else pays. As a college student, it's not so simple to keep money circulating... And the general public cannot do that either. Maybe when this book was written things were different but things are pretty tough these days.
Law 39
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.
Again this looks good on paper but it's not so easy in actuality. Making people angry while you stay calm is pretty simple. It also makes then even more angry because they see how calm you are. Maybe it's because I'm a woman... I haven't seen so many men doing this so naturally... But I'm used to doing this. You kind of learn to shut things out in order to get things done. At this point in my life, it's easy to put a smile on my face (even when I want to throw something) for the greater good.
Law 40
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.
I guess it's good then that not many things are free then. As for paying full price... I don't think there's anything wrong with getting a Burberry bag 15% off in Bloomingdales. I can understand why paying your own way is important. Even I get fidgety when guys pay for me... It usually involves a hidden obligation. But on the other hand, some of my friends and I occasionally pay for each other when we go out. But on the next trip, someone else pays. As a college student, it's not so simple to keep money circulating... And the general public cannot do that either. Maybe when this book was written things were different but things are pretty tough these days.
compelling spectacles & behave like others
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 37
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.
For some reason a flashback of Richard Gere dancing in the movie Chicago singing something about sparkle in people's eyes came to mind. It's true though, you attract attention to one hand and no one watches your other hand.
Law 38
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.
I think this is a way of censoring yourself. It's kind of strange that some of these laws make you believe you have to attract attention but some of them... Like this one.. Say that you have to blend in. So attract attention but blend in at the same time.. Sure why not. You should always have your own thoughts believe what you want but not necessarily flaunt it.
Law 37
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.
For some reason a flashback of Richard Gere dancing in the movie Chicago singing something about sparkle in people's eyes came to mind. It's true though, you attract attention to one hand and no one watches your other hand.
Law 38
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.
I think this is a way of censoring yourself. It's kind of strange that some of these laws make you believe you have to attract attention but some of them... Like this one.. Say that you have to blend in. So attract attention but blend in at the same time.. Sure why not. You should always have your own thoughts believe what you want but not necessarily flaunt it.
timing & ignore what you cant have
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 35
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
"speak softy and carry a big stick?" I think people would not be too happy to see an erratic ruler so staying calm and collected would give you a significant advantage. The problem is that some people are so impatient, then cannot even portray the image of a patient person. For example, I know some things will come to me eventually but some times when you want something... You want it now. Sometimes waiting months or years is just too much. I guess when you're waiting for power, if that's what you really want and if there's no way around it, it's just what you have to do.
Law 36
Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.
Ok, I think some of these laws can be a little out there... But this one should be taught in every high school in the world. High school drama would be redefined.. If it would exist at all. Its sad to see some of the same drama in college... If only there was a class on this in high school and people really got this drilled into their heads. Sometimes you just have to let things go, I'm really surprised with how much energy some people put into unnecessary fights and drama. Do something else.. read a book... Read THIS book.
Law 35
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
"speak softy and carry a big stick?" I think people would not be too happy to see an erratic ruler so staying calm and collected would give you a significant advantage. The problem is that some people are so impatient, then cannot even portray the image of a patient person. For example, I know some things will come to me eventually but some times when you want something... You want it now. Sometimes waiting months or years is just too much. I guess when you're waiting for power, if that's what you really want and if there's no way around it, it's just what you have to do.
Law 36
Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.
Ok, I think some of these laws can be a little out there... But this one should be taught in every high school in the world. High school drama would be redefined.. If it would exist at all. Its sad to see some of the same drama in college... If only there was a class on this in high school and people really got this drilled into their heads. Sometimes you just have to let things go, I'm really surprised with how much energy some people put into unnecessary fights and drama. Do something else.. read a book... Read THIS book.
Act royal & discover weakness
Law 33
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.
This goes along with the play the spy rule. Finding it is important, I think I know most of the weaknesses of the people that are closest to me. It's very highly improbable I would ever use them.. I hope they would never use mine but I think everyone gets this information after a while... If you pay attention that is. The things that are not said are very telling.
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 34
Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.
Hmmm I've tried this and I still get screwed over by people. I think I just put up with a lot. I think this is a very important rule though. You do have to carry yourself well, sometimes putting up a front can really help you out. Especially when it comes to confidence, even if you're not very confident, find a way to fake it. People have to see you walking with your head held high. It says a lot about you.
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.
This goes along with the play the spy rule. Finding it is important, I think I know most of the weaknesses of the people that are closest to me. It's very highly improbable I would ever use them.. I hope they would never use mine but I think everyone gets this information after a while... If you pay attention that is. The things that are not said are very telling.
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 34
Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.
Hmmm I've tried this and I still get screwed over by people. I think I just put up with a lot. I think this is a very important rule though. You do have to carry yourself well, sometimes putting up a front can really help you out. Especially when it comes to confidence, even if you're not very confident, find a way to fake it. People have to see you walking with your head held high. It says a lot about you.
control the options & fantasies
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 31
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.
For gaining power, you really need to do this. If you don't, chances are the other people won't choose something that help you out as much as you would like. But how would you hide their choices without them being onto you. I have to say I probably do this.. And use guilt as my other choice to get what I want sometimes. Oops. I'm a girl, and it works.
Law 32
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.
But what if they figure out the truth? I'm sure everyone would like to see their world through rose color glasses sometimes but you have to be able to take them off. You can't just sweep things under the rug and not expect the dirt to build up and swallow you up eventually (evil alive dirt...).
Law 31
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.
For gaining power, you really need to do this. If you don't, chances are the other people won't choose something that help you out as much as you would like. But how would you hide their choices without them being onto you. I have to say I probably do this.. And use guilt as my other choice to get what I want sometimes. Oops. I'm a girl, and it works.
Law 32
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.
But what if they figure out the truth? I'm sure everyone would like to see their world through rose color glasses sometimes but you have to be able to take them off. You can't just sweep things under the rug and not expect the dirt to build up and swallow you up eventually (evil alive dirt...).
careful planning & effortless
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 29
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.
I can hear my grandmother saying this to me. Especially, when it comes to something important... You can't really leave much to chance.. You better have a plan B to G... Etc. You never know. Because life is not definite you have to be prepared for sudden changes or roadblocks. I guess i never really considered the whole stalker thing... Never planned for that and I got really scared. I mentally prepared for the surgery so i knew what I would do just in case something would happen (my mother could only stay for the day of the surgery). It's difficult to plan for everything but the things that really matter should be carefully thought out.
Law 30
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.
Oh if only. Some stuff is easier to conceal. Pretending to "wing" something can be tough. I think this was much easier in high school. Now since I'm in college things are much more difficult and I think people can read the lack of sleep on my face. Yeah I may have gotten through that exam very quickly but I look like crap because I haven't slept in 24 hours, I really hope my socks match. The point is, I think some stuff shows no matter how much you try to conceal it.
Law 29
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.
I can hear my grandmother saying this to me. Especially, when it comes to something important... You can't really leave much to chance.. You better have a plan B to G... Etc. You never know. Because life is not definite you have to be prepared for sudden changes or roadblocks. I guess i never really considered the whole stalker thing... Never planned for that and I got really scared. I mentally prepared for the surgery so i knew what I would do just in case something would happen (my mother could only stay for the day of the surgery). It's difficult to plan for everything but the things that really matter should be carefully thought out.
Law 30
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.
Oh if only. Some stuff is easier to conceal. Pretending to "wing" something can be tough. I think this was much easier in high school. Now since I'm in college things are much more difficult and I think people can read the lack of sleep on my face. Yeah I may have gotten through that exam very quickly but I look like crap because I haven't slept in 24 hours, I really hope my socks match. The point is, I think some stuff shows no matter how much you try to conceal it.
cultlike following and be bold
Law 27
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.
Lol. This reminds me of a special I saw on TV about cults. But these weren't your typical cults..one of them was a yoga cult and people really followed it. So give people something to believe in, something you can control and uphold and they will follow you. Ok I can see that but how strong does this "cult" have to be to overtake their lives so completely? As I'm writing this I remember the organic chemistry final that's been on my mind for the past couple months... It's not something i really like but I do it almost on autopilot now.
Law 28
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.
I can see this making a lot of sense. I'd rather follow someone that is bold and his actions are almost forceful. If someone is making major decisions and they seem closed off and timid... I'd be terrified. They better be sure of themselves. Since I'm premed I have to practically tattoo this on me somehow somewhere. People get nervous when you seem unsure.. Especially when it comes to your health. Asking for help is ok but if you really seem timid... Well I would never go to a doctor like that, maybe I just have higher standards because I'm around doctors and I hear about them all the time.
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.
Lol. This reminds me of a special I saw on TV about cults. But these weren't your typical cults..one of them was a yoga cult and people really followed it. So give people something to believe in, something you can control and uphold and they will follow you. Ok I can see that but how strong does this "cult" have to be to overtake their lives so completely? As I'm writing this I remember the organic chemistry final that's been on my mind for the past couple months... It's not something i really like but I do it almost on autopilot now.
Law 28
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.
I can see this making a lot of sense. I'd rather follow someone that is bold and his actions are almost forceful. If someone is making major decisions and they seem closed off and timid... I'd be terrified. They better be sure of themselves. Since I'm premed I have to practically tattoo this on me somehow somewhere. People get nervous when you seem unsure.. Especially when it comes to your health. Asking for help is ok but if you really seem timid... Well I would never go to a doctor like that, maybe I just have higher standards because I'm around doctors and I hear about them all the time.
recreate yourself & keep your hands clean
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 25
Re-Create Yourself
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
I just got a similar lecture from a very close friend. It's true though, you can always change who you are. Being timid and shy doesn't mean you always have to be like that and you will never obtain power.. It seems like those qualities doesn't have any place in a power person.. At least on the outside. This one takes courage but it is no where near impossible. I recently wrote out a list of some of things that define me.. Things that set me apart from the next snow white Russian. And wrote in what I'd like to change. I'm working on it. It's difficult to break a habit though and even if you do it's always easier to go back to what you know. It takes a lot of work and sometimes it's extremely frustrating and difficult... But everything really worth it is.
Law 26
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.
Not taking responsibility for your mistakes may sound nice and may work for those seeking power but could the average person really do that effectively and not feel bad for it? Blaming the dog for eating your homework is different than blaming someone for causing a break up when you cheated.
Law 25
Re-Create Yourself
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
I just got a similar lecture from a very close friend. It's true though, you can always change who you are. Being timid and shy doesn't mean you always have to be like that and you will never obtain power.. It seems like those qualities doesn't have any place in a power person.. At least on the outside. This one takes courage but it is no where near impossible. I recently wrote out a list of some of things that define me.. Things that set me apart from the next snow white Russian. And wrote in what I'd like to change. I'm working on it. It's difficult to break a habit though and even if you do it's always easier to go back to what you know. It takes a lot of work and sometimes it's extremely frustrating and difficult... But everything really worth it is.
Law 26
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.
Not taking responsibility for your mistakes may sound nice and may work for those seeking power but could the average person really do that effectively and not feel bad for it? Blaming the dog for eating your homework is different than blaming someone for causing a break up when you cheated.
concentrate your forces & play the courtier
Law 23
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.
Milking cows huh. Ok it's understandable that finding a good source of resources instead of many not so good ones would have a greater effect. Hopefully you'll have that security and there is a greater chance you will have access to whatever you need for a longer period of time.
Law 24
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the most oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.
I guess a little flattery will get you anywhere. That must have been one slick time. Everything goes on behind closed doors and no one really knows what someone's true intention is. This ties back to other laws and puts them together. For some reason Anne Boleyn comes to mind. After reading The Boleyn Girls I really could imagine how much deception went on. But in the end, they did get things done... Until it backfired of course and she was decapitated... Karma maybe? I believe in that.
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.
Milking cows huh. Ok it's understandable that finding a good source of resources instead of many not so good ones would have a greater effect. Hopefully you'll have that security and there is a greater chance you will have access to whatever you need for a longer period of time.
Law 24
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the most oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.
I guess a little flattery will get you anywhere. That must have been one slick time. Everything goes on behind closed doors and no one really knows what someone's true intention is. This ties back to other laws and puts them together. For some reason Anne Boleyn comes to mind. After reading The Boleyn Girls I really could imagine how much deception went on. But in the end, they did get things done... Until it backfired of course and she was decapitated... Karma maybe? I believe in that.
Play a sucker & surrender tactic
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.
This goes back to the first law, never out shine your master. I guess this makes sense, if they don't believe you're very intelligent then who could you possibly have ulterior motives. But to what extent could someone really do this? What about your reputation? Even if they don't believe everything they hear, won't it raise some suspicions?
Law 22
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.
The other party won't think they made you surrender? I mean it makes sense if someone was about to defeat you and your surrendered right before they could they could get angry. And tormenting and irritating your conquered won't make him just try harder to get you back?
Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.
This goes back to the first law, never out shine your master. I guess this makes sense, if they don't believe you're very intelligent then who could you possibly have ulterior motives. But to what extent could someone really do this? What about your reputation? Even if they don't believe everything they hear, won't it raise some suspicions?
Law 22
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.
The other party won't think they made you surrender? I mean it makes sense if someone was about to defeat you and your surrendered right before they could they could get angry. And tormenting and irritating your conquered won't make him just try harder to get you back?
do not offend the wrong person
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 19
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.
I think this is a big part of growing up. You really have to watch your mouth sometimes. Picking your battles carefully can end up saving you a lot of time, effort and resources. And there are always people you just shouldn't mess with... For whatever reason. Maybe it's not wise to try our your tricks on them.
Law 20
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.
The monogamous person in me started screaming when i first read the section title. But anyway, I like this one. It reminds me of major elections. If you dont commit people will chase you and try to get your attention. It may be a little vicious.. See what you can get out of each group of people.. But it happens all the time.
Law 19
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.
I think this is a big part of growing up. You really have to watch your mouth sometimes. Picking your battles carefully can end up saving you a lot of time, effort and resources. And there are always people you just shouldn't mess with... For whatever reason. Maybe it's not wise to try our your tricks on them.
Law 20
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.
The monogamous person in me started screaming when i first read the section title. But anyway, I like this one. It reminds me of major elections. If you dont commit people will chase you and try to get your attention. It may be a little vicious.. See what you can get out of each group of people.. But it happens all the time.
suspended in terror & isolation
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 17
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.
This will certainly keep someone on their toes. I know I get nervous when things get somewhat unpredictable with certain things. People like knowing what will happen next so if you're unpredictable on purpose it makes sense that it could potentially cause some issues. It would probably be a "what will they think of next" kind of moment. But once in a while you do have to do something predicable.. Something other than being unpredictable. That will really drive them crazy.
Law 18
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.
You can't really play the spy if you are locked away in a tower.. So to speak. Hiding away especially when things get tough really can do more damage than good. You have to know what's going on. I guess this goes back to hiding in plain sight. You may need someone's help but if you can't get a hold of them... You may be screwed.
Law 17
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.
This will certainly keep someone on their toes. I know I get nervous when things get somewhat unpredictable with certain things. People like knowing what will happen next so if you're unpredictable on purpose it makes sense that it could potentially cause some issues. It would probably be a "what will they think of next" kind of moment. But once in a while you do have to do something predicable.. Something other than being unpredictable. That will really drive them crazy.
Law 18
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.
You can't really play the spy if you are locked away in a tower.. So to speak. Hiding away especially when things get tough really can do more damage than good. You have to know what's going on. I guess this goes back to hiding in plain sight. You may need someone's help but if you can't get a hold of them... You may be screwed.
crush your enemy & use absence
Law 15
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.
The analogy helped this make sense. I can't really see myself crushing someone so completely but I'm sure there has been a time when I really wanted to and I considered it... Almost like mentally throwing stuff at them, it's better than nothing. I'm a pretty peaceful person... Slightly vicious when the occasion calls for it but for the most part I'm calm and mellow. This makes sense in war.. Not the peaceful mellow thing but the annihilation thing... For a ruler that is, crushing an entire country is not much of a victory. You'd be killing innocent people that may have nothing to do with the ruler.
Law 16
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.
I'm reading another book by Robert Greene so this makes sense in more ways then one. If someone is around all the time you probably would take it for granted. As soon as they don't have time for you you start to wonder and think about them more. Disappearing every once in a while is a good idea.
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.
The analogy helped this make sense. I can't really see myself crushing someone so completely but I'm sure there has been a time when I really wanted to and I considered it... Almost like mentally throwing stuff at them, it's better than nothing. I'm a pretty peaceful person... Slightly vicious when the occasion calls for it but for the most part I'm calm and mellow. This makes sense in war.. Not the peaceful mellow thing but the annihilation thing... For a ruler that is, crushing an entire country is not much of a victory. You'd be killing innocent people that may have nothing to do with the ruler.
Law 16
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.
I'm reading another book by Robert Greene so this makes sense in more ways then one. If someone is around all the time you probably would take it for granted. As soon as they don't have time for you you start to wonder and think about them more. Disappearing every once in a while is a good idea.
self interest & work as a spy
Law 13
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.
This is definitely one to remember. People always want to gain something out of everything they do..even if its for other people. If you show them where and how something will benefit them, it makes sense that they will come to you and want to help you even if just to get something for themselves. I think this is very realistic. People do it everyday... They may not be looking to gain anything they can touch but appreciation or recognition is something desired too.
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 14
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.
I think everyone does this on some level. They may not do it in order to use it against the person at some point in time but we all gather information for a rainy day. You never known when you may need it.
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.
This is definitely one to remember. People always want to gain something out of everything they do..even if its for other people. If you show them where and how something will benefit them, it makes sense that they will come to you and want to help you even if just to get something for themselves. I think this is very realistic. People do it everyday... They may not be looking to gain anything they can touch but appreciation or recognition is something desired too.
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 14
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.
I think everyone does this on some level. They may not do it in order to use it against the person at some point in time but we all gather information for a rainy day. You never known when you may need it.
Keep people dependent & selective honesty
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 11
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.
I think this law has a contradiction, if people are dependent on you then how are you more free? Don't you then have to be around more often? I understand how having people that are dependent on you will give you more power but more freedom? I guess in a way they will then have to agree with you and make sure you stick around. If they don't need you then youre not needed period.. So in actuality you have no power.
Law 12
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.
Even though some of these laws seem kind of evil on the surface, it's easy to see when and how they will work. This one is a good example of that. If you do this, people can potentially end up trusting you and even depending on you. Give them a little and they'll like some more. Then you have them.. So to speak. This should help you develop a rapport. It opens people up and leaves them vulnerable.. Should you choose to see it like that.
Law 11
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.
I think this law has a contradiction, if people are dependent on you then how are you more free? Don't you then have to be around more often? I understand how having people that are dependent on you will give you more power but more freedom? I guess in a way they will then have to agree with you and make sure you stick around. If they don't need you then youre not needed period.. So in actuality you have no power.
Law 12
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.
Even though some of these laws seem kind of evil on the surface, it's easy to see when and how they will work. This one is a good example of that. If you do this, people can potentially end up trusting you and even depending on you. Give them a little and they'll like some more. Then you have them.. So to speak. This should help you develop a rapport. It opens people up and leaves them vulnerable.. Should you choose to see it like that.
Win with actions & avoid the unhappy
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
Law 9
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.
"demonstrate, do not explicate" I like that. I think people tune others out when they talk to much, they want to see things done. I know if someone is yelling at me I tune it out, if you have to say something being calm and rational will get further than just yelling at me. At people are sour after an argument so pushing someone to do something won't really do anything for you. Maybe that's why I'm not a huge fan of yelling at children, I don't think it works as well as people may believe.. And hitting children.. I don't think it's right. My mother didn't really yell at me very often and i think i turned out pretty well. I followed her example.
Law 10
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
Story of my life. I'm always the one trying to save the drowning man. I have to agree. It does drag you down. And what's sad is that you may not even notice it happening. It's just in my personality to help people. I always go above and beyond for my friends and people that ask for my help and 98% of the time i get hurt and they're not grateful anyway. I guess that's why when i have an issue i write in my blog or maybe I'll call my best friend to talk about if it gets really bad.
Law 9
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.
"demonstrate, do not explicate" I like that. I think people tune others out when they talk to much, they want to see things done. I know if someone is yelling at me I tune it out, if you have to say something being calm and rational will get further than just yelling at me. At people are sour after an argument so pushing someone to do something won't really do anything for you. Maybe that's why I'm not a huge fan of yelling at children, I don't think it works as well as people may believe.. And hitting children.. I don't think it's right. My mother didn't really yell at me very often and i think i turned out pretty well. I followed her example.
Law 10
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
Story of my life. I'm always the one trying to save the drowning man. I have to agree. It does drag you down. And what's sad is that you may not even notice it happening. It's just in my personality to help people. I always go above and beyond for my friends and people that ask for my help and 98% of the time i get hurt and they're not grateful anyway. I guess that's why when i have an issue i write in my blog or maybe I'll call my best friend to talk about if it gets really bad.
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