When we are young and we start dating someone most of the fear we have is the one we want to be with leaving us for someone esle. We worry if they are looking at another girl, texting another girl , facebooking messaging another girl , etc. As we get older, unfaithfullness is still an issue but usually only when there is a trust issue already set in place.
In high school and a little above it young couples usually do not think about personality differences between the two of them and how it will cause problems in the future. They also do not usually worry about how their boyfriend or girlfriend would be as a parent. Sometimes they do take into consideration what kind of future there significant other is going to have, but for the most part it is not a concern.
When people are together and high school and stay together after high school two things happen... 1) They eventually breakup because the start to drift about due to education, maturing, job choices, re-location, etc. 2) They grow together and recognize they are alike in their life choices as far as who they want and what they want to surround them.
Or... it could be a constant struggle where the two have to work out their differences but do so because they love eachother.
The point here is that when people stay together after high school their relationshipes go through many transformations. The person who had the upper hand before ( maybe because they were well-liked and more popular in high school) may not wear the pants anymore. The couple begins to discuss what they want for their future and if the two cannot work together the relationship will end. Or maybe they just get plain sick of eachother.
Also it may even seem like your not even dating the same person as before. You learn and change alot in a relationship and recognize flaws in yourself that are fixable. You may even begin to respecet your partners privacy and not search through their phone when they are sleeping because if you do have to do that you should be together anyway.
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